now i'll try and give you a proper answer - but it's a bit complicated! Mostly we try to run things by consensus and make sure that all the diffrent people in the system get time to be out and do stuff they like (and take turns doing the stuff we have to do that nobody likes much - like emptying the bins). But as the only (current) grown up sometimes i have to make the final decsion about something (for example not letting dwoucke, who is 5, eat sweets all day) or make sure that it's me who deals with some outside people. We have some control about who is out when but it's not perfect (anymore than someone can always contol what kind of mood they are in). Usually people repond to their own name if it's spoken/writen inside or outside (so usually if an emial or a leter is specifically addressed to one of us then they will be the one that reads it) and certain situations and stimuli call different people out (for example judiff often comes out when we are swiming). Times when we are less good about contoling who is out are when one person(usually me) has been out for a very long time or when we are tierd, ill or particulary emotional. Sometimes one person is out and another is close by watching (and maybe advising) them which is iout understaning of what co-consciousness is. Letting one of the younger kids come out and having me close behind keeping an eye on them is one way that we acn cope with letting the kids be out in the world which is useful. Sometimes different people seem to acatually merge on a tmeporay basis which is confusing - a dwoucke/_gwyny is a bit of a special case because she turns up without much warning and it's hard for anyone either inside or outsode to comnicate much with her becaued eshe is pretty much non-verbal. But we've given her a journal now and she has used it to say a few words which i think is a good sign. And sometimes, usually when we are stresed or distressed we just dissosate and there isn't really anybody home (which is scary and we're trying to work on that not happening) or we sometimes get into a slightly less seroius disosative state so whoever is out fel detached form themselves and everything else (which is also pretty unpleasent). That's just how it works for us an doesn't necessaryly apply to any other multiple systems (especailyy the dissiation stuff). Does it make snes and is there anything else you would like to know?
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Date: September 17th, 2004 11:18 am (UTC)Mostly we try to run things by consensus and make sure that all the diffrent people in the system get time to be out and do stuff they like (and take turns doing the stuff we have to do that nobody likes much - like emptying the bins). But as the only (current) grown up sometimes i have to make the final decsion about something (for example not letting
We have some control about who is out when but it's not perfect (anymore than someone can always contol what kind of mood they are in). Usually people repond to their own name if it's spoken/writen inside or outside (so usually if an emial or a leter is specifically addressed to one of us then they will be the one that reads it) and certain situations and stimuli call different people out (for example
Times when we are less good about contoling who is out are when one person(usually me) has been out for a very long time or when we are tierd, ill or particulary emotional.
Sometimes one person is out and another is close by watching (and maybe advising) them which is iout understaning of what co-consciousness is. Letting one of the younger kids come out and having me close behind keeping an eye on them is one way that we acn cope with letting the kids be out in the world which is useful. Sometimes different people seem to acatually merge on a tmeporay basis which is confusing - a
And sometimes, usually when we are stresed or distressed we just dissosate and there isn't really anybody home (which is scary and we're trying to work on that not happening) or we sometimes get into a slightly less seroius disosative state so whoever is out fel detached form themselves and everything else (which is also pretty unpleasent).
That's just how it works for us an doesn't necessaryly apply to any other multiple systems (especailyy the dissiation stuff).
Does it make snes and is there anything else you would like to know?