you know sometimes i really wish that IdentityQueer thing had caught on

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Today was slightly odd (and interesting) because someone who we thought already knew that we're multiple and in the same system as judiff just worked it out. (I'm not planning to identify them in a public post but they are someone i feel entirely comfortable being out to)
It's made me think about whether i should be more out about it. The obvious worry is that people will think i/we are mad because we're plural (or as a lot of people will say because we "feel like/think" we're plural*). But we are mad - the full signed of work indefinitely/on DLA/having a lots of interesting diagnosis etc mental and it's hardly a secret. So does it mater what people think?
As far as any of us can tell being multiple is one of the least mad things about us. It's just a thing that is - like having straight hair or needing glasses. I think (for us if not for other systems) it has something to do with the spectrumness and central coherence etc but i'm not sure it matters where it comes from so much as that it's part where we are now.

A lot of people get plurality wrong. A lot of people prolly would discount us because of it. It's different somehow to more respectable types of mad like depression or PTSD. And it's not like we yet another reason to not fit in/be seen as weird.
Even people who say they get it don't always actually seem to.

Having to hide any part of your life is always spoon-depleting and difficult.

I'd like a safe way to test the waters a bit around people's attitudes but i can't think of a workable way to do that.


* like people have said about our PVFS/chronic fatigue and way back even about our dyslexia

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thankyou for this

i'm kind of intrigued and confused what you mean by
she's not multiple? Do you consider you as a whole to be multiple or plural in some other way?
Are you SoulBonders? And/or Walk-ins instead?
Or do you just mean that she is some kind of orginal core/host? And do you feel the word multiple implies so kind of splitting and dissociation?

(ignore me if you're not feeling like asking questions - i'm just trying to get more of a feel of how you(all) work rather than trying to pick holes. But i am also just interested in different ways of using language about this stuff)

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I'm a soulbonder, and they're all fictional characters or alternate-universe versions of people in this world :) I think we pretty much always define 'multiple' as 'more than one personality split from the same source' - not necessarily with dissociation, just that all the personalities come from within the original host, and that's not how it is with us. I just read stuff or watch stuff and then they're like, hi, here are my problems and here is all my luggage, and I'm like, oh god, here we go again :x

I like talking about how it works for us, so I'm always happy to field questions (Blaise is asleep right now and I'm awake, so figured I'd answer for him)~