i never seem to have time to write much here

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sinse polyday i've been thinking about how polyamoury and multplicty fit together (but i haven't come to many conclusions)
I've also been wondering of the cadburys "my happiness" add camapin is a plural thing or not.

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[doltaghey.livejournal.com]

Actually this is something we've been having to deal with lately. The polyamory thing, not the cadburys thing. In the last 6 months, 2 people in our system have embarked on relationships with others outside our system. Now since we (collectively) are married, with neither the desire not the intention to leave our collective husband, this tends to cause problems, and also there have been jealousy issues with one of the other partners (about a relationship that the other person is in). It's like, sometimes even people who grok the multiplicity still get issues about jealousy in collective relationships.

Really I think it's very difficult, if not impossible, for a multiple system to maintain relationships and be happy unless they and their partners are prepared to accommodate some degree of polyamory. Unless everyone in the system happens to be in love with the same person, which strikes me as remarkably unlikely.